• Lifestyle,  Parenting,  Work/Life Balance

    Support Networks for Working Moms

    After becoming a mom, I noticed there are a million sites dedicated to working moms. The common theme across all of them is that working moms have it tough and we need to lean on each other for help and encouragement. I have read countless articles about the money I would potentially lose by staying home with my kids for even a few years, the challenges of pumping at work, the exhaustion of going to work after being up all night, the psychological benefits to children of working moms, the list goes on and on. All of them encouraging me in some way shape or form to be a working mom because some how it will either benefit me or my children. While the network for working moms seems endless, there seems to be far less out there for stay at home moms. Why is that? I think the difference…

  • Chores and Errands,  Lifestyle,  Work/Life Balance

    Motherlodes and Motherboards

    In a computer, the board all the circuits that make the computer run are mounted is called the motherboard. Go figure. It makes sense such a thing would be called the motherboard. After all, isn’t the mother the person to whom all the details of the entire household’s lives get attached to? Mom keeps track of the baby’s diaper changes, feedings, bath schedules, and bed times, Daddy’s meetings, work hours, mealtimes and downtimes, the laundry, cooking, cleaning and general chaos. If you’re a working mom there’s a whole other world that’s added to that list. No wonder a large haul of something is called a motherlode. Who else could handle it? This is why, just yesterday, when I was out running errands returning baby gates (again) and broken breastpumps (ugh) I found myself staring at an array of food in the grocery section of Target and felt my motherboard fizzle…

  • Chores and Errands,  Lifestyle,  Work/Life Balance

    How to Find Time for Yourself as a New Mom

    Finding time for myself has been one of the most challenging things for me after Benji was born. I feel like every second of my day is consumed with taking care of him, my husband, my house, my work and not myself. By the time Ben is sleeping and I finally get a chance to sit down in the evening, I realize another thing I had forgotten to do. In fact, as I write this I am photocopying a worksheet for my classes tomorrow that I forgot to drop off with the copy lady. My work is never ending. Whenever I have errands to run after work, I feel like the clock starts ticking the moment I walk out the door. I have a limited amount of time to get back to the house before Benji needs to be fed and put to bed. That window of time has thankfully…

  • Relationships,  Work/Life Balance

    Why I Love Being Married to a Stay at Home Dad

    While I dislike being a working mom and struggle with that reality on a daily basis, I love that my husband is home with our little boy so much of the time. Being an adjunct professor and freelance composer, his hours away from the house are much shorter than mine, particularly at certain times of the year. Since January is winter break for colleges, he is spending his time with Benji while we give our babysitter some time off. As much as I love our babysitter, it is so much easier to leave the house in the morning when I know Benji will be with his Daddy all day. Who better to take care of him if I can’t? I wasn’t always so comfortable leaving Benji in the capable hands of his father. When I first returned to work after three weeks home with him, I was terrified leaving Nick…

  • Chores and Errands,  Work/Life Balance

    How I Plan a Week of Meals Stress Free

    Before I got pregnant with our son, my husband and I used Sun Basket, an organic meal delivery service, and we were very happy with it. However, once pregnant, I found my tastes changed on a daily basis and I didn’t like the smell of meat cooking so our diet was anything but predictable. While pregnant, I also enjoyed being symptom free from my IBS. I was able to eat gluten and dairy for a blissful 9 months. A lot of what we ate during that time consisted of whatever I was craving and whatever I ordinarily couldn’t eat (ie: lots of ice cream). After our son was born we tried to go back to Sun Basket but I was frustrated by the choices and my dietary limitations. Planning meals became a weekly ordeal. The world famous “What do you want for dinner?” rang through our house on a daily…

  • Chores and Errands,  Work/Life Balance

    Prime Now Grocery Delivery Review

    Every mom knows going to the grocery store is a chore that occurs at least on a weekly basis. If you’re like me, I make a big trip to Trader Joe’s every Saturday and then stop off at the local store on my way home from work to pick up all the things I forgot at Trader Joe’s. Because, well, mommy brain. This Sunday, while planning for another grocery trip, I decided I really didn’t feel like going because I had too much other work to do. Then, I remembered that I had gotten a $5 credit for Prime Now by choosing “no rush” shipping on Amazon Prime orders I had placed for Christmas presents. Not one to turn down a coupon, I figured I’d give it a go. The Prime Now app was super easy to use. I make my own baby food for Ben so the first thing…

  • Work/Life Balance

    Work / Life Balance

    I am a millennial mom and this is my moment. Right here, right now, I claim a little space and a little time to myself. Okay, so not really to myself because I’m sitting here in a dark room with a baby asleep on my chest because we’re going through a separation anxiety phase and my son doesn’t sleep if I’m not holding him but you know what I mean. It’s as much of a moment as I’m going to get until, I don’t know, 2048? Being a mom is hard. Everyone tells you being a mom is hard. So you know that going into it. But no one can prepare you for the unique reality that is your experience as a mom. For me, that reality involves trying to reconcile how I always imagined being a mom would be with how being a mom is. At least how it…